I know it has been a while since I have written a blog post and I don’t plan start writing many more but I actually started writing this as a tweet but it was turning out to be too long for a tweet and just wouldn’t carry the same meaning.
So here goes nothing…
It pains me to learn that bullying and discrimination happens beyond school and at all ages. Whether it be in your family or friend circles, disagreements and jealousy are the 2 main catalyst I’ve observed to cause this. It can really alter the dynamics to something which you have made many months, maybe years of effort to establish. As a result, it makes you question yourself as to what you might be doing wrong.
To clarify, I personally am not subjected to any form of bullying but I am aware of those who are. However, I have been in many situations where I have been forced to show bias where I felt it would cause discrimination towards another person (AKA family (or even friends) politics). In these scenarios, if they continue to persist with making follow their bias, I would disagree and I have not been afraid to break relations in order to maintain my integrity. Truth alone triumphs right? As a result, I have lost touch with many friends and family but I do not regret it. I don’t have very many close friends and family left, and I feel as though I may lose some more.
Being married, my wife does her utmost to maintain relations. Her and I would always look to accommodate everyone around us to ensure everyone is looked after as we both have an open door policy. I’d like to think many of our close friends and family have experienced this and benefitted in some way. However, we’ve noticed this effort is forgotten after something turns slightly sour for 1 of the 2 catalysts stated above.
Which makes us wonder:
- Why do we put the effort in, in the first place?
- Is it worth being accommodating if it’s only going to be taken advantage of?
- Is it worth continuing to maintain relations if it is making you or your loved ones unhappy?
- How close should your close friends or family should really be to you?
- Should we put the brakes on getting too close to friends?
- We can’t choose our family, so is it worth stress, anguish and effort to maintain the perceived unconditional bond?
I do apologise for this very passive and abstract post. I won’t be going into any details as I feel this should explain any scenario for anyone.